When is good, too good?

The Big Princess and I had an interesting conversation today. She said some kids at recess said the word shut up and she said she made that surprised noise (not sure how to spell it or write it but it's the one you make when you're scared or appalled). She said when she made that noise, the kids laughed at her.  I asked her why she think they laughed at her and she said, "Well, maybe they just think I'm too good and I don't want that."

This led of course, into more mom questions like "What does too good mean?"  Her reply was you don't want to be the bad kid, but you also don't want to be the perfect one.  She continued by saying how at school she worked really hard to be a good person but at home, she was so not a good person.  Her final response was, "Mom, I don't want them to think that I think that I'm perfect."

This brought back many moments in my high school career when I was definitely "the goody two shoes."  I didn't drink. I didn't have sex. I didn't do weed.  I babysat.  I worked.  And trust me when I say I'm glad I chose that road, but it really isn't always the easiest road to choose.  It's ironic this topic came up with The Big Princess because one of the people who was merciless about teasing me about being a goody-two shoes and involved with God so much is going to be one of the main speakers and the nation's largest Christian music festival in Sioux Falls this weekend (obviously, God has gripped his heart now and he does have quite the story).  If I didn't want to go with the group (his girlfriend was my best friend) he would make comments to me like, "Oh, sorry we aren't good enough for you. Go bowl with your youth group."  Then there would be snide comments here and there ("Go read your Bible or go say your prayers") and I knew people thought that about me.  As one matures, one realizes that the righteousness aspect of religion can come off so negatively if not directed correctly.  I'm sure I came off quite righteous as times and didn't know how else to handle it.  I also know that I was a goody two shoes, but not because I felt like I was better than they were but simply because I was scared of not being in total control of myself.  And the aspect of trying to live right was always there.

So, how do I answer my Big Princess who doesn't want to be too good or too bad?  Finding a happy medium is something that comes with maturity, yet I don't want her to choose to be bad simply because she thinks kids won't laugh at her.  But I also don't want kids laughing at her.  But I also don't want her to feel the pressure to be perfect.

I need a parenting manual.  And can it be a graphic novel form so it's a quick read?