Girl Drama

We are in our second full week of school...almost finished as a matter of fact and yes, I can FEEL it tonight, but I digress.  Today I am finally starting to "see" who my lovely children are that I get the fun of spending 8 hours a day with.  In other words, the honeymoon is over.  I sent my first one to the hall today, simply because he has diarrhea of the mouth and there appeared to be no cure for that.  So, ba-bye.  I went to talk with him and assured him it was only by my loving grace that his little hiney wasn't in the office.  When I asked how he's going to fix the problem, he had an idea so I'm going with that for a bit to see how it goes.  I believe I now have another name to cross off the list of "possible children's names" even if I'm done with children.  That would be Harrison.

However, Harrison drama is nothing compared to the already starting girl drama.  It isn't just at the middle school either.  Yesterday, Big Princess was excited to see me when I picked her up at after school care.  This surprised me and within five seconds of walking out of the gym, she said, "Mom, Myra just messed up my computer game by pulling out my mouse.  Then it ruined everything I had done.  And Katie wouldn't play with me today.  I don't know why."  So, we go back over tactics for survival that should could use, like the whole find something else to do if they won't play with you, or find a new friend and so on.  She is shy, but is actually really brave at walking up to kids and making new friends right away.  Her final comment, "I am not playing with Little Princess tonight because I've had enough girl drama."  I totally get it.

At middle school level, I've already had one student kicked out of school for a week (a girl who threatened to beat up another girl--obviously this girl has a record already established or it would never be this long and this drastic but because of the problems she caused last year, they simply threw the book at her right away)  and today I had another girl put into  in school suspension for some drama going on.  When the principal came up to get this girl's belongings, he grabbed another girl in my class and read her the riot act out in the hall starting out his mini-lecture with, "I am seeing lots of girls in my office and many of the stories we're being told have your name involved in them. You better start making better choices or you're going to be in my office next." I love my principal by the way.

Holy smokes, I seriously don't remember ever being this dramatic. But I do know my only visit to the principal's office was due to the fact that I was playing "kill the guy with the ball" at recess with the boys and the principal said I had to stop and play with the girls. Yes, today he wouldn't get away with that, but at the time, it ended my football playing career which I started because my little brother and I played together all the time so I did boy things quite naturally. It was at that point in my life, which was 3rd grade, when I realized what girl drama was.  My sister was never into it either so we didn't have it at home, but since I was forced to watch the girls jump rope and do cheers, I got to see girl drama for the first time.  I would have to say my high school graduating class of 20 did have its share of girl drama but I truly did try to stay out of it.

My hope is to instill in my daughter the ability to stay out of it, too, but it's such a different world.  And add to the fact that she is going to be strikingly beautiful and smoking hot and you can pretty much bet that she will be the victim of quite a bit of drama from jealous girls and so on.  Man, I wish there was a manual with these girls. I really want to do the right things but what the heck constitutes "right" when it comes to preparing them for life with girl drama?